Desperate Households Part 3 -- Desperate for Love

Hi Abba. I pray for the men in our lives to come to know the true way to love their spouses and I pray that we in return give them the true love that they need in their lives as well.

Notes...

This sermon is mainly for the guys...it tells what women want out of marriage. The next topic is Desperate for Respect and is for the women telling them what men want from marriage. We're going to spell the word "Couple" and that if you don't do any or all of these things that this is when problems really get bad and people go looking to get their needs met in other places. Obviously that's not a marriage so these are the keys to making your women happy. Obviously we need to keep this in mind for our men too, ladies. :-)

C is for closeness. She wants you to be close with her. She wants you to make connections with her. She wants you to make contact with her.

O is for openness. She wants you to open up so that you can solve problems together, and be willing to listen.

U is for understanding. She wants you to understand that she doesn't want you to fix her...she just wants you to listen. She's delicate and she's worthy of honor and respect. Don't be bitter towards her and understand that while men want to fix things so that they can move forward, that women aren't like that and will remember any past arguments that you have had because if you don't resolve them they still bother her later. She wants to share her goals out of life and have you understand their importance to her so that you can both make them happen together.

P is for peacemaking. She wants you to say "I'm sorry" and it's important not to be stubborn but to submit to one another.

L is for loyalty. You can't have a marriage without it. She needs to know that you're committed to God in every aspect of your life and then she will do better and know that you are committed just as much to her and that you will love her just as much. Often, women are more loyal to their men, than men are loyal to their men.

E is for esteemed. She wants to know that you're thinking about her and that you love her without her having to prompt you for what she wants and needs to hear.

It's important to do all these things...they don't need to be done all at one time, but they need to be done and remembered and if they are...you will have a great marriage. If these basic needs aren't met, women go looking for them to be met in other places and your marriage begins to break apart. Women need their love tanks to be filled on a regular basis.

A book for us to read is "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emerson Everitch. :-)