Desperate Households Part 5 -- Desperate for Direction

Abba, please take over as the pilots of our lives and of our relationships. Only You know the true direction of our lives and how to maneuver through it the proper way. We all have our own hills and valleys to muddle through, but only You know the way to get us through that. Let us relinquish control of our lives to You.

Notes...

Jesus Take the Wheel...don't make him the co-pilot...make him the driver.

A lot of marriages are spiraling out of control. We're leading the world in divorce.

Sometimes, we look at our neighbors with the perfect family, perfect house, and they just seem like everything is going well for them. Things aren't always what they seem. Things may look perfect on the outside, but on the inside everything is out of control and falling apart.

We ignore God's direction for families at our own expense.

Roles have nothing to do with equality worth value, but a difference in function. We'll look at the roles of the husband, wife, and children.

Society teaches us that changing our roles in families is ok. We need to keep our families together. Families struggle over which roles are really for whom. Roles get mixed-up in families a lot.

Every person and relationship has some measure of dysfunction.

We all have something to work on. We need to give up control of our life to Jesus.

Husband's role is headship, leadership. It's not dominance, slavish or wanting wives and children to do evil. It is servant leadership. They need to be responsible and love their wives and children. Headship is not about cracking the whip around the house. Good capable leadership needs to be practiced when called upon. Set true example for children. It is not abusing your wives and children....wives and children do not need to submit to that. Serve families with all of your heart. Be loving at all times. Show your relationship with God by example. Keep Jesus first. You need to love your wife and love her fully until the day that you die. Not many tv shows show the husband as an intelligent being. Husbands are not to be undermined and mocked and made fun of. Husbands need to turn to scripture to see what your role in the home is. We may not like what is written there, it doesn't matter. This is God's plan for your life. What must change is our perspective on how we perceive it and accept it. His priority is to love his wife as God loved the church. We don't always trust in God to take care of our struggles...we try to fix it ourself. When everything is in control, then we turn to God. When times get tough again, we try to take over control. Jesus CAN take control of our life...every aspect of it. We just need to turn it over to him. We must go to Him with everything. He has never proven to be uncapable, but yet we blame Him when things go wrong. Give praise to your wife in front of your children. Hold hands and stay close to your wife in public...acknowledge your marriage and that you really love her to others. Men don't get caught up in something and forget about your wife and think that your life is just about you. We convey that in our actions sometimes. Make your wife #1 in your life.

Train and instruct your children in love. Don't be unreasonable. Don't be critical and praise your children. Don't neglect your children. This makes children feel unloved and not wanted.

Wives role is to submit to the leadership of the husband. Love him as you would unto Christ. The love and respect thing in marriage will not work if you both don't believe in Jesus Christ. Submission is you ducking so God can hit your husband, according to Beth Moore. :-) The wife must respect her husband in all aspects of life. Quit paying attention to the world, but to Jesus Christ and what he wants for us.