Our Dearest Deidra....

Our Dearest Deidra:

You will never understand how special and dear you are to me or your Daddy. We love you so very much. You are one beautiful girl with such a giving spirit and lots of love to share with everyone. I know that the changes with adding to our family is an adjustment for all of us and I know that you don't understand what some of these young ones have been through already in their short years of life.

I know that you get upset that they get all kinds of toys and candy at their visits and you feel left out. That's why Mommy tries to take you do do things or to get things when they have their viists. But, one thing I don't think that you understand is that toys and things don't make up for love. They have mommies and daddies that don't know what it means to be good mommies and daddies. Their children are in care while they take classes for them to learn how to be better parents. Nobody is perfect, but we have to strive to do our best by our children and some people just need some extra help. So, their mommies and daddies only get to see them for an hour a week while they learn how to be better parents and they tend to give toys and gifts to their children in the meantime. I just want you to try and remember that you come from a loving home where Mommy and Daddy try to do their best by you everyday. Yes, we may forget things from time to time or we may not exactly do what it is that you want us to do for you, but we have your best interests in our hearts. We love you, Deidra, and we do care about you very much.

I know that the boys take up a lot of time and now you'll be getting a sister closer to your age to play with and this is new for you too. You've never had to share your own stuff or have someone close in age that wants to do the same things as you do. We just have to remember to take turns and when you get upset, just remember that she is still learning about boundaries and what is the right thing to do. She has never known rules or sharing or really how to play and interact with others in all the appropriate ways. You're her big sister and you're going to have to set a good example too and we'll all try and teach her together. However, please remember that this is all scary for her too...she's been taken from her home and placed with people she doesn't know and it's got to be hard for her too to have to get used to new surroundings.

You have a big heart and you've been doing really awesome with everything. You play nicely and you give everyone pieces of your heart. You are so excited to be a big sister and you do really well, yet I know that sometimes you have a hard time with things when you get jealous and don't want to have to share too. I just want you to know how proud I am of you and how much I love you. Mommy and Daddy are doing our best to provide for all of your needs (all 4 of you), yet we try to spend one on one time with you too so that you have that time with us too. I love you sweetheart and I just want you to know how very special you are to me and that you always will be. You really are a great big sister even though I know it's not always easy for you either. It's been a big adjustment for you and we understand that and we are proud of you for trying to be such a great big sister. We love you!

Love always and forever,



Mommy